9 posts categorized "politics"

right to bare thongs

apparently, louisana state representative derrick shepherd (my homey from Jefferson Parish--the big J.P.--gotta represent) wants to stick you with a $500 fine and/or six months of jail for wearing "low-slung pants that expose skin or 'intimate clothing.'"

leave it to a fucking louisiana legislator to ask for six months jail time as a punishment for kids with their underwear showing. that's right, we should use our tax money to support the capture and imprisonment of people who wear low-rise pants. god knows, they're a menace to society. them and the stoners. i just don't feel safe on the streets anymore--all those sleepy-eyed hippies and fashion-conscious women prowling around. it's madness. it's fucking anarchy. something must be done.

shepherd says, "I'm sick of seeing it...[I]f parents can't do their job, if parents can't regulate what their children wear, then there should be a law." what is this, a fucking police state? watch out, kids, visible bra straps and inadvertent panty lines are next. it's fashion police meets george orwell's 1984.

how do idiots like derrick shepherd get elected to public office? because we're too apathetic to vote. let the story of the Bill Against Low-Slung Pants be a lesson to us all. i will vote in the upcoming election. i will support freedom of expression. i will defend my right to check out hot boys with their boxers showing. 

thanks to julie for the link; check out julie's livejournal for her own witty commentary on the subject of thong underwear.

you gotta be shittin' me

from the News Briefs section of the 5/7/04 Reveille, compiled from AP wire reports:

Bill to ban low-slug pants approved

Louisiana residents who wear low-slung pants that expose underwear or certain body parts could be charged with a crime if lawmakers agree to a bill approved Thursday by a House panel and spurred by complaints about visible boxer shorts and sagging pants that sit nearly at men's knees. "In our society we have a line of decency that should not be crossed, and that line starts around the waist area," said Rep. Derrick Shepherd, D-Marrero, sponsor of the bill. Lawmakers turned aside concerns from Heather Hall, with the Louisiana chapter of the American Civil Liberties Union, who said the measure was rife with opportunity for discrimination and selective enforcement from police. Hall said the bill institutes a literal "fashion police" and a "really invasive violation of the fundamental right to public expression." The House Criminal Justice Committee approved the bill in a 4-1 vote, sending it to the full House for debate.

::sigh:: happy finals week, ya'll.

this one goes out to The Fortress.

from The Tennessean, dated Wednesday, 10/13/04:

SPRING HILL — A bright ''yellow ducky'' vibrating bath sponge and its angry owner took on Spring Hill City Hall yesterday — and won.

If only by default.

After hearing about a business promoting personal pleasure and adult toys at Saturday's Friends of Spring Hill Library flea market, held on the grounds of a Presbyterian church, city officials said they would cite the owner into Municipal Court for violating the city's sexually oriented business ordinance.

But yesterday, after consulting with their attorney, city officials decided not to issue the citation.

''When police officers arrived at the flea market, she had already taken down her booth, and so we've declined to prosecute because of a lack of evidence,'' City Administrator Ken York said. ''We also talked to nearby vendors, and they didn't want to testify in a case like this.''

The booth in question displayed the ''yellow ducky'' vibrating bath sponge, along with other products Katherine Williams described as ''PG-13,'' including lubricants and body lotions from her Spring Hill-based business, Passions & Pleasures.

''Nothing we do is nasty, unless you have a nasty mind,'' she said, turning a knob on the yellow ducky's tail to make the sponge vibrate. ''My 3-year-old son loves to play with this duck in the bath. He puts it on his neck and on his head; there's nothing inappropriate about it.''

Williams said she was pleased the city had changed its mind about issuing the citation, but she didn't like the way she was treated when she went to City Hall yesterday.

''I asked for a copy of the ordinance from Ken York, and he refused to talk to me,'' she said. ''Then he called a detective, who got right in my face and told me I needed to leave the building.

''Well, I pay Spring Hill taxes, and they can't throw me out of a building my taxes pay for,'' she said.

York said Williams was ''loud and vocal'' when she entered the building. ''It was necessary to escort her out of the building,'' he said.

When she returned an hour later to pick up a copy of the ordinance, again she was loud and was escorted out, York said.

Outside City Hall, Williams came face to face with Effie Heiss, the president of the Friends of the Spring Hill Library, which sponsored the flea market where Williams had set up her controversial booth.

''You sure shocked a lot of little old gray-haired ladies like me,'' Heiss told Williams.

''Well, I have a lot of little old ladies who buy my products,'' Williams shot back.

''And I only had two negative comments, but I got a stack of people who signed up to win my gift basket,'' she said, indicating a 2-inch-high stack with her index finger and thumb.

Williams said she intends to set up again at next year's flea market.

''If she does, she'll be cited into court,'' York said. ''That duck is a sexual toy, and it was on display. That was a vibrator on display in public view.''

check out a picture of the offending ducky here.

anything but.

let's talk about the election.

i cut linguistics wednesday morning because i couldn't drag myself out of bed in time.

i slept for four hours in the middle of the afternoon.

i missed ballet.

today, however. i went to ballet and it was cold enough to wear legwarmers, which is exciting in a way that is hard to explain.

i guess it's comparable to the way you feel on the first day you have to wear a sweater--but not a coat or even a jacket--and the night smells faintly of christmas.

or the way you feel the first time you turn the heater on in your car and the warm air hits your knuckles on the steering wheel. that reminds me of christmas more than anything. more than christmas trees, even.

why does the main office of arts & science have a christmas tree displayed in the corner when we haven't even had thanksgiving break? hodges hall hobby lobby.

on today's episode of My So-Called Life (the one where jordan catalano tries to pressure angela into having sex with him), angela ponders:

people are always saying you should be yourself, like yourself is this definite thing, like a toaster.            

what i want to know is: what does it say about me, that what i want more than anything is to see angela hook up with brian krakow?

she preferred celibacy to tupping.

to all the women who preface statements with "i'm not a feminist or anything"
and for all the men who want to know

here's an unapology.

...................................

ann: oh fucking hell
my nemesis is here
barrett: who
ann: it's f___, my thesis advisor
barrett: ahhhh
how is ole f___ doing
that sucks to have your thesis advisor as your nemesis
ann:
i don't know how he's doing, i hope never to speak to him again
every time i see him i am on the verge of panic
what a miserable experience that was
barrett: awww
ann: he probably would be nice to me if i talked to him
barrett: yeah
ann: since i'm wearing a tank top displaying a fair amount of cleavage
barrett: ahhh that's why - whatever
ann: no
that's not why
barrett: he probably would be nice anyway
ann: the sexual comments were only a bonus to the whole thing
barrett: mhm - you want f___
ann: no.
barrett: your mind is always in the bed
ann: the whole thesis thing was pretty much, like, if you looked up traumatic experience in the dictionary
it's like the dictionary definition of traumatic experience
barrett: hahah
ann: it ended with elsie m____e moderating my meetings with f___
he was so thoroughly negative
he never said one constructive thing in the whole semester
i cried through my thesis defense
it was completely humiliating
and then he told me that i looked pretty, or something
'your play is shit but look how cute you are, you got all dressed up for your defense'
barrett: weird - it sounds like he has social problems
i'm reminded of mc___ on that note
ann: mc___ was never patronizing to me
but i didn't threaten him in any way
barrett: u threatened f___?
ann: m____e said she thought f___ needed me to defer to him constantly. like, with all his suggestions, he wanted me to do exactly what he said and not question it. which wasn't even possible, since he has major problems with communication. m____e was on my committee and i was so embarrassed about crying in front of her...i apologized before class the next week and she got this mad look on her face and told me she thought he'd been abusive
barrett: yeah
ann: we didn't even get into the sex remarks....he's such a lech....i was in the M&DA building talking to my dance director, and f___ came up--this was back when we were cool--and my director was like "oh f___, did you know ann's one of my dancers" and he looked me up and down and said something about how i had the body for it
barrett: well that's nice of him
it can be taken any way i guess
ann:
glad you're not a girl?
bullshit.
barrett: i've always been glad i'm not a girl
although i'm sure many people are glad they aren't guys
ann: i don't often play the angry disempowered female card, or whatever....it startles me when this kind of shit comes up.
sometimes my girlfriends get all riled up about things that i think are petty.
barrett: yeah i know
you try
ann: try what?
to get riled up?
barrett: no, not to get riled up - you seem to try not to
ann: yup.
if you had said yes i was going to be really kind of furious.
barrett: i wouldn't have cared about your fury
ann: i don't think any of my guy friends think shit ever goes down like this. because they're all basically nice guys who like women. and if it surprises me when i have these weird interactions with men, i'm sure it's totally beyond these nice boys' comprehension. still it's frustrating when they don't see it, or when they try to encourage me to see it from the guy's perspective, or something.
barrett: why is it frustrating when you are offered another perspective
as long as your original POV isn't being attacked as invalid, then there shouldn't be a problem
ann: because it's always offered like 'calm down, crazy feminist, he was just complimenting your tits, and if you didn't want him to grab your ass, why didn't you get away from him sooner?'
not to mention i am already forever considering other people's perspectives and feeling bad for getting angry and 'maybe he was just trying to be friendly'
barrett: well for the record i don't think i'd ever mind if a chick compliments my dick
ann: from some people it's a compliment
____ told me i had nice tits and i was like, cool.
f___ looking me up and down is something else.
not being able to go to a show alone without some guy trying to pick me up is really fucking lame.
barrett: some chicks like being picked up.  also - it sucks that it's only a compliment if it comes from a guy you want to screw
ann: i don't mind it coming from my friends. even the ones i don't want to fuck.
barrett: yeah i know it can be uncomfortable to get hit on by people you don't like of course
ann: there are certain bars, and even certain bad nights at good bars, when i can't look up from the floor for fear of accidentally making eye contact with some random sketchy dude
who takes that as a personal invitation
it's like they're sitting around waiting to pounce
i just want to be left alone to listen to music
which is hard to enjoy when you're trying to politely disengage from a conversation with some dickhead guy telling you 'you look lonely'
barrett: hahah
i should use that line
ann: which is why the last time it happened, i was so uncomfortable and so frustrated that i finally asked the guy "look, do i know you? no? okay, well, i've got plans after this, and i won't be coming over to that party at your house. so, no. i'm done with this conversation."
at which point he told me "well fuck off then"
and i flipped him off, and he was like, "fuck you!" and i was like "FUCK YOU."
barrett: ouch
rejection is a bitch
ann: he can go to hell
i am so done with it.
i'm done with being nice or gentle. these guys do not get it. a gentle rejection is a further invitation.
so if i have to flip them off and tell them to go fuck themselves, that's fine.
barrett: damn
what a hardcore bitch!
but - i'm proud of you for not pretending to like a guy i guess
ann: i mean, you don't think it's particularly in line with my general personality to be a bitch and flip off total strangers, do you?
because i don't think it is. i'm pretty nonconfrontational. but i'm also pretty sick of the whole thing.
barrett: no you aren't generally a bitch. i think w/ practice you will find a medium b/w non-confrontation & bitch overload
ann: honestly, it's hard not to lose my temper
and if bitch overload gets these asshole guys to run the hell away from me, then i think it's a pretty efficient way of interacting
for the record, i have several acquaintances who constantly comment on my appearance, usually in graphic and totally inappropriate detail
and i just laugh it off, even if i'm uncomfortable. and maybe i shouldn't. but i know they mean it to be nice.
barrett: yeah
ann: it's totally different coming from a sleazeball guy, and you can tell right away which way it's coming from. when br___ offered to buy me a drink, i was like, of course.
he said all the usual things that a guy could say, and if he had been sleazy i would have shot him down and made fun of him to all my friends. but he wasn't sleazy, he was nice.
barrett: well - u may or may not be concerned w/ this - but your actions will cause backlash somehow
ann: backlash like?
barrett: like the way they deal w/ women later
ann: for example
barrett: well the way you treat someone will affect the way the guy approaches a woman next time, positively or negatively
maybe offer pointers for next time he approaches a woman if you're feeling really nice
ann: the guys that i'm talking about, they are basically operating on one track
it goes like this: YES. NO.
and if it's "gee, thanks, i really appreciate the offer, but you know, i'm kind of busy. maybe next time you could try not leering at me while i'm dancing with my friend"--what they hear is "blah blah blah NOT NO"
barrett: ok - i'm tired of sticking up for these idiots
ann: good.
they don't deserve you.
barrett: or you apparently
ann: nope.
i don't think i'm stuck-up, if that's what you're insinuating.
barrett: no - i'm glad you have standards
what would you do if d______ accosted you
ann: laugh in his face. but only bc it's d______.
barrett: & then
ann: if i didn't know him and he tried to hit on me at a bar, i don't know what i'd do. i think he would immediately come across as manipulative and insincere.
b____n pulled some shit on me once
it's really hard with your friends
he was making out with my neck in the middle of the street and telling me 'come on baby'
i was like, ha ha ha, please stop it, seriously.
barrett: yeah
ann: 'he's a nice guy, he was really drunk.' that's what i get for that story.
barrett: hahaha, b___y
ann: yup. b___y was basically the identical situation. and i say: he's my friend, and i can't tell him to fuck off because i just can't. that doesn't make it right and it doesn't make me feel any less uncomfortable.
barrett: i have the feeling you'd give into d______
ann: oh my god. what do you mean, give in?
have you ever known me to give in to anyone?
barrett: give in to an advance of sorts
ann: you cannot be serious
i guess the only guy who ever made an 'advance' that i 'gave in' to was ben.
i wouldn't even hook up with d______, much less 'give in' to him. that implies that the interaction would be on his terms and that i wasn't even really interested. and i don't play that game.

5 - 4

do these numbers scare you?

....

in catholic school we were taught about the development of life in utero. we were taught about abortion techniques. we followed the legislature and prayed for the ban of partial-birth abortions. in ninth grade religion class we watched a video of an abortion procedure. i was one of two girls who left the room.

my feelings on abortion are complicated and intense and changing all time. i marked this change recently when driving past a church in new orleans, at the corner of carrollton and oak. they had posted a banner outside, typical catholic pro-life stuff, a picture of a baby with the caption "IF YOU'RE PREGNANT ... IT'S A BABY."

if you are well-versed in pro-life teachings, the above proclamation makes sense. we learned in catholic school that the pro-choice people passed Roe v. Wade by arguing that the thing in your belly was a 'fetus' and not a baby - so abortion isn't murder, because you're 'terminating a fetus' instead of killing a baby. it was a logic trick; it was semantics. the church on carrollton seeks to restore to pro-choice people the understanding that the thing in their belly is not a 'fetus' but a baby - so that they will make the right decision to preserve this baby's life.

five years ago, or maybe even one year ago, i would not have batted an eye at the sight of this banner.

but now i burst out laughing. do they not understand how irrelevant this argument is? do they seriously think that they're telling a pregnant woman something she doesn't already know? that's the whole fucking point. generally speaking, if you're pregnant and you're seeking an abortion, it's not because you don't want to have a 'fetus.' it's because you don't want to have a baby.

but then, maybe the church uses this slogan because they're giving women the benefit of the doubt - approaching a pro-choice woman as someone with the capacity for compassion and appealing to that compassion - rather than dismissing her summarily as an apathetic baby killer.

except this approach assumes that if you tell a woman she's "pregnant with a baby," her maternal instinct is going to kick in and she'll realize that it is in fact her destiny to birth a small creature and love it and nurture it and devote her life to it and this act will be the realization of her fullest potential. motherhood is the ultimate expression of and greatest gift to womanhood. etc etc. [and if you don't subscribe to these beliefs, if you don't hold them sacred, you must be some kind of frigid alien-bitch.]

it is very easy for me to fall into the trap of "if it's natural it must be right and good" - in fact i am uncomfortable with my own ambivalence towards abortion as a personal choice and as a legal right - and i was startled to discover, several months ago, that i felt my capacity for childbirth was an unfair burden. it seems ridiculous to consider what is more or less a biological inevitability "unfair" - but that's how i feel right now.

on the other hand, i suppose there are lots of "unnatural" things that i believe in, like airplanes, the internet, classical ballet, and sex-as-recreation between people of all genders, same or otherwise.

and i find solace in "anatomy is not destiny" and i find inspiration in the reaffirmation of Roe v. Wade that Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg quotes below.

what follows are sections of the april 18th supreme court ruling supporting the Partial Birth Abortion Ban Act (5 - 4), along with some media commentary. all formatting for emphasis is mine; some citations have been removed for readability.

i think the supreme court ruling is paternalistic and patronizing; i think Justice Ginsberg's dissenting opinion is eloquent and her destruction of the majority argument is thorough; i think the "enhanced informed consent" as described in the New York Times article below is both condescending and something akin to emotional torture of women who have made an extremely difficult and emotionally charged decision protected by legal right in this country - all in the supposed best interest of the woman-mother's mental health.

i hope those numbers scare you. they scare the shit out of me.

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from Gonzales v. Carhart  et al. – Dissenting opinion, Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg

In reaffirming Roe, the Casey Court described the centrality of “the decision whether to bear . . . a child,” Eisenstadt v. Baird, 405 U. S. 438, 453 (1972), to a woman’s “dignity and autonomy,” her “personhood” and “destiny,” her “conception of . . . her place in society.” 505 U. S., at 851–852.

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from Gonzales v. Carhart  et al. – Opinion of the Court, decided April 18, 2007 (5 - 4)

It must be stated at the outset and with clarity that Roe’s essential holding, the holding we reaffirm, has three parts. … And third is the principle that the State has legitimate interests from the outset of the pregnancy in protecting the health of the woman and the life of the fetus that may become a child. These principles do not contradict one another; and we adhere to each.

... The State has an interest in ensuring so grave a choice is well informed. It is self-evident that a mother who comes to regret her choice to abort must struggle with grief more anguished and sorrow more profound when she learns, only after the event, what she once did not know: that she allowed a doctor to pierce the skull and vacuum the fast-developing brain of her unborn child, a child assuming the human form.

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from The Nation - May 16, 2007 - Jessica Arons

With his opinion in Gonzalez v. Carhart, Justice Anthony Kennedy utterly changed the course of abortion jurisprudence in this country. Among the reasons he cited for upholding the ban on a type of midterm abortion procedure was the concern that some women may "come to regret their choice to abort the infant life they once created and sustained.... Severe depression and loss of self-esteem can follow."

... Since when do we base the free exercise of our rights on whether we may later regret having done so?


... Clearly, Justice Kennedy has bought into every single stereotype that the "prolife" movement has painted about the women who have abortions--that women who want abortions are selfish; that they don't fully understand the consequences of their decision; that it is unnatural for a woman to want an abortion; that they are a different breed of women from those who choose motherhood; that they will be traumatized by having an abortion; that they don't have the proper respect for human life.

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from Gonzales v. Calhart et al. – Dissenting opinion, Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg

Today’s decision is alarming. … It tolerates, indeed applauds, federal intervention to ban nationwide a procedure found necessary and proper in certain cases by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG). It blurs the line, firmly drawn in Casey, between previability and postviability abortions. And, for the first time since Roe, the Court blesses a prohibition with no exception safeguarding a woman’s health.

… Women, it is now acknowledged, have the talent, capacity, and right “to participate equally in the economic and social life of the Nation.” Id.,  at 856. Their ability to realize their full potential, the Court recognized, is intimately connected to “their ability to control their reproductive lives.”

In keeping with this comprehension of the right to reproductive choice, the Court has consistently required that laws regulating abortion, at any stage of pregnancy and in all cases, safeguard a woman’s health. .. We have thus ruled that a State must avoid subjecting  women to health risks not only where the pregnancy itself creates danger, but also where state regulation forces women to resort to less safe methods of abortion.

… [I]t should not escape notice that the record already includes hundreds and hundreds of pages of  testimony identifying “discrete and well-defined instances” in which recourse to an intact D&E would better protect the health of women with particular conditions. See supra, at 10–11. Record evidence also documents that medical exigencies, unpredictable in advance, may indicate to a well-trained doctor that intact D&E is the safest procedure. … The Court’s allowance only of an “as-applied challenge in a discrete case,” ante, at 38—jeopardizes women’s health and places doctors in an untenable position.

The Court offers flimsy and transparent justifications for upholding a nationwide ban on intact D&E sans any exception to safeguard a women’s health. Today’s ruling, the Court declares, advances “a premise central to [Casey’s] conclusion”—i.e., the Government’s “legitimate and substantial interest in preserving and promoting fetal life.” But the Act scarcely furthers that interest: The law saves not a single fetus from destruction, for it targets only a method of performing abortion. … And surely the statute was not designed to protect the lives or health of pregnant women. In short, the Court upholds a law that, while doing nothing to “preserv[e] . . . fetal life,” bars a woman from choosing intact D&E although her doctor “reasonably believes [that procedure] will best protect [her].”

As another reason for upholding the ban, the Court emphasizes that the Act does not proscribe the nonintact D&E procedure. See ante, at 34. But why not, one might ask. Nonintact D&E could equally be characterized as “brutal,” ante, at 26, involving as it does “tear[ing] [a fetus] apart” and “ripp[ing] off” its limbs, ante, at 4, 6. “[T]he notion that either of these two equally gruesome procedures . . . is more akin to infanticide than the other, or that the State furthers any legitimate interest by banning one but not the other, is simply irrational.”

Delivery of an intact, albeit nonviable, fetus warrants special condemnation, the Court maintains, because a fetus that is not dismembered resembles an infant. But so, too, does a fetus delivered intact after it is terminated by injection a day or two before the surgical evacuation, or a fetus delivered through medical induction or cesarean. Yet, the availability of those procedures—along with D&E by dismemberment—the Court says, saves the ban on intact D&E from a declaration of unconstitutionality. Never mind that the procedures deemed acceptable might put a woman’s health at greater risk.

Ultimately, the Court admits that “moral concerns” are at work, concerns that could yield prohibitions on any abortion. (“Congress could . . . conclude that the type of abortion proscribed by the Act requires specific regulation because it implicates additional ethical and moral concerns that justify a special prohibition.”). Notably, the concerns expressed are untethered to any ground genuinely serving the Government’s interest in preserving life. By allowing such concerns to carry the day and case, overriding fundamental rights, the Court dishonors our precedent. See, e.g., Casey, 505 U. S., at 850 (“Some of us as individuals find abortion offensive to our most basic principles of morality, but that cannot control our decision. Our obligation is to define the liberty of all, not to mandate our own moral code.”); Lawrence v. Texas, 539 U. S. 558, 571 (2003) (Though “[f]or many persons [objections to homosexual conduct] are not trivial concerns but profound and deep convictions accepted as ethical and moral principles,” the power of the State may not be used “to enforce these views on the whole society through operation of the criminal law.” (citing Casey, 505 U. S., at 850)).

Revealing in this regard, the Court invokes an antiabortion shibboleth for which it concededly has no reliable evidence: Women who have abortions come to regret their choices, and consequently suffer from “[s]evere depression and loss of esteem.” Because of women’s fragile emotional state and because of the “bond of love the mother has for her child,” the Court worries, doctors may withhold information about the nature of the intact D&E  procedure. 

Footnote: The Court is surely correct that, for most women, abortion is a painfully difficult decision. See ante, at 28. But “neither the weight of the scientific evidence to date nor the observable reality of 33 years of legal abortion in the United States comports with the idea that having an abortion is any more dangerous to a woman’s long-term mental health than delivering and parenting a child that she did not intend to have . . .” Cohen, Abortion and Mental Health: Myths and Realities, 9 Guttmacher Policy Rev. 8 (2006)

Footnote: Notwithstanding the “bond of love” women often have with their children, see ante, at 28, not all pregnancies, this Court has recognized, are wanted, or even the product of consensual activity. See Casey, 505 U. S., at 891 (“[O]n an average day in the United States, nearly 11,000 women are severely assaulted by their male partners. Many of these incidents involve sexual assault.”).

The solution the Court approves, then, is not to require doctors to inform women, accurately and adequately, of the different procedures and their attendant risks. Cf. Casey, 505 U. S., at 873 (plurality opinion) (“States are free to enact laws to provide a reasonable framework for a woman to make a decision that has such profound and lasting meaning.”). Instead, the Court deprives women of the right to make an autonomous choice, even at the expense of their safety.

This way of thinking reflects ancient notions about women’s place in the family and under the Constitution— ideas that have long since been discredited. [e.g., United States v. Virginia, 518 U. S. 515, 533, 542, n. 12 (1996) (State may not rely on “overbroad generalizations” about the “talents, capacities, or preferences” of women; “[s]uch judgments have . . . impeded . . . women’s progress toward full citizenship stature throughout our Nation’s history”); Calfano v. Goldfarb, 430 U. S. 199, 207 (1977)

Though today’s majority may regard women’s feelings on the matter as “self-evident,” this Court has repeatedly confirmed that “[t]he destiny of the woman must be shaped . . . on her own conception of her spiritual imperatives and her place in society.” Casey, 505 U. S., at 852. See also id., at 877 (plurality opinion) (“[M]eans chosen by the State to further the interest in potential life must be calculated to inform the woman’s free choice, not hinder it.”)

Footnote: Eliminating or reducing women’s reproductive choices is manifestly not a means of protecting them. When safe abortion procedures cease to be an option, many women seek other means to end unwanted or coerced pregnancies. See, e.g., World Health Organization, Unsafe Abortion: Global and Regional Estimates of the Incidence of Unsafe Abortion and Associated Mortality in 2000, pp. 3, 16 (4th ed. 2004) (“Restrictive legislation is associated with a high incidence of unsafe abortion” worldwide; unsafe abortion represents 13% of all “maternal” deaths); Henshaw, Unintended Pregnancy and Abortion: A Public Health Perspective, in A Clinician’s Guide to Medical and Surgical Abortion 11, 19 (M. Paul, E. Lichtenberg, L. Borgatta, D. Grimes, & P. Stubblefield eds. 1999) (“Before legalization, large numbers of women in the United States died from unsafe abortions.”); H. Boonstra, R. Gold, C. Richards, & L. Finer, Abortion in Women’s Lives 13, and fig. 2.2 (2006) (“as late as 1965, illegal abortion still accounted for an  estimated . . . 17% of all officially reported pregnancy-related deaths”; “[d]eaths from abortion declined dramatically after legalization”).

In cases on a “woman’s liberty to determine whether to [continue] her pregnancy,” this Court has identified viability as a critical consideration. See Casey, 505 U. S., at 869–870 (plurality opinion). “[T]here is no line [more workable] than viability,” the Court explained in Casey, for viability is “the time at which there is a realistic possibility of maintaining and nourishing a life outside the womb, so that the independent existence of the second life can in reason and all fairness be the object of state protection that now overrides the rights of the woman. . . . In some broad sense it might be said that a woman who fails to act before viability has consented to the State’s intervention on behalf of the developing child.” Id., at 870.

Today, the Court blurs that line, maintaining that “[t]he Act [legitimately] appl[ies] both previability and postviability because . . . a fetus is a living organism while within the womb, whether or not it is viable outside the womb.” Ante, at 17. Instead of drawing the line at viability, the Court refers to Congress’ purpose to differentiate “abortion and infanticide” based not on whether a fetus can survive outside the womb, but on where a fetus is anatomically located when a particular medical procedure is performed. See ante, at 28 (quoting Congressional Findings (14)(G), in notes following 18 U. S. C. §1531 (2000 ed., Supp. IV), p. 769).

One wonders how long a line that saves no fetus from destruction will hold in face of the Court’s “moral concerns.” The Court’s hostility to the right Roe and Casey secured is not concealed.

In sum, the notion that the Partial-Birth Abortion Ban Act furthers any legitimate governmental interest is, quite simply, irrational. The Court’s defense of the statute provides no saving explanation. In candor, the Act, and the Court’s defense of it, cannot be understood as anything other than an effort to chip away at a right declared again and again by this Court—and with increasing comprehension of its centrality to women’s lives. See supra, at 3, n. 2; supra, at 7, n. 4. When “a statute burdens constitutional rights and all that can be said on its behalf is that it is the vehicle that legislators have chosen for expressing their hostility to those rights, the burden is undue.” Stenberg, 530 U. S., at 952  (quoting Hope Clinic v. Ryan, 195 F. 3d 857, 881 (CA7 1999) (Posner, C. J., dissenting)).

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May 22, 2007 – The New York Times

"Abortion Foes See Validation for New Tactic"
By Robin Toner

Washington, D.C. - For many years, the political struggle over abortion was often framed as a starkly binary choice: the interest of the woman, advocated by supporters of abortion rights, versus the interest of the fetus, advocated by opponents of abortion.

But last month’s Supreme Court decision upholding the Partial-Birth Abortion Ban Act marked a milestone for a different argument advanced by anti-abortion leaders, one they are increasingly making in state legislatures around the country. They say that abortion, as a rule, is not in the best interest of the woman; that women are often misled or ill-informed about its risks to their own physical or emotional health; and that the interests of the pregnant woman and the fetus are, in fact, the same.

The majority opinion in the court’s 5-to-4 decision explicitly acknowledged this argument, galvanizing anti-abortion forces and setting the stage for an intensifying battle over new abortion restrictions in the states.

This ferment adds to the widespread recognition that abortion politics are changing, in ways that are, as yet, unclear, if not contradictory. Even as the anti-abortion forces relish their biggest victory in the Supreme Court in nearly 20 years, they face the possibility of a Republican presidential nominee, former mayor Rudolph W. Giuliani of New York, who is a supporter of abortion rights.

The anti-abortion movement’s focus on women has been building for a decade or more, advanced by groups like the conservative Justice Foundation, the National Right to Life Committee and Feminists for Life.

“We think of ourselves as very pro-woman,” said Wanda Franz, president of the National Right to Life Committee. “We believe that when you help the woman, you help the baby.”

It is embodied in much of the imagery and advertising of the anti-abortion movement in recent years, especially the “Women Deserve Better Than Abortion” campaign by Feminists for Life, the group that counts Jane Sullivan Roberts, the wife of the chief justice, among its most prominent supporters.

It is also at the heart of an effort — expected to escalate in next year’s state legislative sessions — to enact new “informed consent” and mandatory counseling laws that critics assert often amount to a not-so-subtle pitch against abortion. Abortion-rights advocates, still reeling from last month’s decision, argue that this effort is motivated by ideology, not women’s health.

“Informed consent is really a misleading way to characterize it,” said Roger Evans, senior director of public policy litigation and law for Planned Parenthood. “To me, what we’ll see is an increasing attempt to push a state’s ideology into a doctor-patient relationship, to force doctors to communicate more and more of the state’s viewpoint.”

Nancy Keenan, president of Naral Pro-Choice America, said, “It’s motivated by politics, not by science, not by medical care, and not for the purposes of compassion.”

The Guttmacher Institute, a research group and an affiliate of Planned Parenthood, said recently that “a considerable body of credible evidence” over 30 years contradicted the notion that legal abortion posed long-term dangers to women’s health, physically or mentally.

But Allan E. Parker Jr., president of the Justice Foundation, a conservative group based in Texas,  compares the campaign intended for women to the long struggle to inform Americans about the risks of smoking. “We’re kind of in the early stages of tobacco litigation,” Mr. Parker said.

All sides agree that the debate reached a new level of significance when Justice Anthony M. Kennedy, writing the majority opinion in the Supreme Court case last month, approvingly cited a friend-of-the court brief filed by the Justice Foundation.

The foundation, a nonprofit public interest litigation firm that has handled an array of conservative causes, has increasingly focused on abortion through its project called Operation Outcry. Mr. Parker said the group began hearing from women in the late 1990s who considered themselves victims of legalized abortion — physically and emotionally — and wanted to tell their stories. Operation Outcry, which grew to include a Web site, a national hot line and chapters around the country, eventually collected statements from more than 2,000 women, officials said.

In its friend-of-the-court brief, the group submitted statements from 180 of those women who said that abortion had left them depressed, distraught, in emotional turmoil. “Thirty-three years of real life experiences,” the foundation said, “attests that abortion hurts women and endangers their physical, emotional and psychological health.”

The case before the Supreme Court involved a specific type of abortion, occasionally used after the first trimester, that involves removing a fetus intact after collapsing its skull. Justice Kennedy upheld that ban on narrower, legal grounds, but he used the Justice Foundation brief to write more broadly about the emotional impact of abortion on women.

“While we find no reliable data to measure the phenomenon, it seems unexceptionable to conclude some women come to regret their choice to abort the infant life they once created and sustained,” Justice Kennedy wrote, alluding to the brief. “Severe depression and loss of esteem can follow.”

Given those stakes, the justice argued, “The state has an interest in ensuring so grave a choice is well informed.”

Many, on both sides, viewed that as an invitation from a newly conservative court to pass tough new counseling and informed-consent laws intended for women seeking abortions — “a green light for enhanced informed consent,” in the words of Clarke D. Forsythe, president of Americans United for Life, a leader in that legislative effort.

The abortion-rights side was caught off guard, in part because its strategists believe the scientific debate has been so decisively settled against the Justice Foundation’s argument over the years. “We thought that brief was so extraneous that we didn’t even bother coming up with a response to it,” said Mr. Evans of Planned Parenthood.

In her dissenting opinion, Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg agreed. “The court invokes an anti-abortion shibboleth for which it concededly has no reliable evidence,” she wrote.

But Mr. Parker at the Justice Foundation said the point of view being promoted by his group had already had an impact in states debating informed consent and other abortion regulations, including South Dakota.

That state’s law, currently being challenged in federal court, requires women seeking an abortion to be told that the procedure will terminate a “whole, separate, unique, living human being,” and that it carries a variety of psychological and physical risks to the woman.

South Carolina has been debating proposals that encourage, if not require, a woman to go a step further and review the sonogram. Other new “informed consent” proposals in the states would require women to receive an ultrasound before their abortion; according to Naral, 10 states have considered such legislation this year.

This focus on women by the anti-abortion movement has real power, many experts said. Reva B. Siegel, a Yale law professor and a supporter of abortion rights who recently conducted a study of this effort, said it combined “the modern language of trauma and women’s rights” with “some very traditional ways of understanding women.”

But Geoffrey Garin, who conducts polls for abortion-rights groups, said, “Once you get past the verbiage, women get that the motivation here is political as opposed to medical.”

History suggests that the way the abortion struggle is framed has a significant effect, over the years, on legislative and political outcomes. In the late 1980s, the Naral slogan “Who Decides?” was widely credited with helping the abortion-rights movement capture the voters of the center. A decade later, the campaign to outlaw what critics call partial-birth abortion — symbolizing a broader argument that the right to an abortion had gone too far — helped the anti-abortion movement widen its support and win significant victories in Congress, state legislatures and the court.

The anti-abortion movement clearly hopes this emphasis on women as victims of abortion has similar influence, although some of its strategists acknowledge it is a huge task; there are an estimated 1.3 million abortions a year in the United States, according to the Guttmacher Institute.

Mr. Parker said his organization planned to make its legal argument, and the accompanying testimonials from women, available to more state legislatures. Every time he speaks on the issue, he said, he receives more phone calls from women.

small potatoes

last week, i was walking home for my lunch break when i noticed these two fliers posted on the pole in front of NGT. they were hand-written in red permanent marker, and they said something to this effect:

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ATTN: bands!!

Starting this weekend, please do not post fliers on this pole unless they are for shows happening at NGT.

- Mgt

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on one of the fliers, someone had added this comment: "EAT COCKS!"

and rightly so. because this 'policy' is obviously bullshit.

for those of you unfamiliar with baton rouge, NGT is a [sort of lame] venue [that rarely books good bands, has a slightly-better-than-bare-minimum bar, and was cooler when it was ichabod's] on chimes street, which runs along the northern border of LSU's campus. this north side of campus is called the "northgate" neighborhood and is a stronghold of local food and halfway-decent nightlife in baton rouge. within two blocks, you've got the original raising cane's, a bike shop, the chimes restaurant & bar, the varsity theatre, louie's 24-hour diner, highland coffees, inga's sandwich shop, storyville t-shirt shop, slinky's bar, and NGT. chelsea's used to be here, too, along with saigon restaurant and paradise records, but they were in a strip that was bought out by some gigantic corporate apartment chain, which in turn demolished the strip, fenced the entire perimeter of the property, including the parking lot, and let the whole mess turn to chain-linked weeds and dirt. it's an eyesore and a waste of valuable space. but that's a different rant.

in addition to all the local food/bar options, this neighborhood boasts some of the few cheap housing options around LSU that aren't part of a corporate apartment chain. the properties are generally not well-maintained (state street is also called the 'student ghetto'), but the architecture is nice and old (some houses on the street date back to the 1920s), the floors are usually hardwood, and the location is perfect for students. not only is it less than a ten-minute walk to the middle of campus, but it's also part of an actual neighborhood with actual things - a coffeeshop, a bike shop, restaurants, bars - unlike, say, anything in tigerland or off brightside, where there's some affordable housing but it's all big apartment complexes with zero personality.

because of the mixed-use development of the northgate neighborhood, the area sees a lot of pedestrian traffic. therein lies the rub with NGT's attempt to selectively prohibit flier-posting on the pole in front of their business. if it were a pole were on, say, siegen lane, no one would give a shit. but a pole on chimes street is prime real estate for a band (or anyone else) looking to post a flier. tons of people will pass that pole, on foot, every day. that pole represents free space for publicity in a high-traffic area.

and that pole doesn't belong to NGT. as a matter of fact, it's illegal for anyone to post anything on poles. NGT has no right to take down other people's fliers while posting their own.

so i went home and typed up my own flier, which said something like:

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ATTN: NGT!!

If you try to enforce this idiotic policy of prohibiting bands from posting fliers on the pole in front of your business, I will personally remove all NGT fliers I see on poles around Baton Rouge - this pole included.

See Baton Rouge City Code 1951, Title 12, § 300; East Baton Rouge Parish Code 1962, Title 12, § 300; Baton Rouge City Code 1951, Title 12, § 301.

Don't be greedy.

--Ann

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karen agreed to be my accomplice. we took brett's staplegun and my kitchen step-stool to chimes street and stapled my flier beside the NGT one. (the step-stool was necessary because i am short and the original flier was posted up high.)

she's been asking if there was any response to my flier, or if it's even still posted. so today i checked the pole.

my flier is still there, rain-faded, with this comment hand-written in red permanent marker:

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Hey Ann,

Mind your own business.

P.S. We just want one pole.....is that okay?

- Mgt of NGT

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as it turns out, i don't really feel like having a flier war. i typed up this letter and i'm going to stick it under their door on my way home from work this afternoon. maybe they will understand. it's not nice to be a dick.

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Greetings.

I’m not particularly interested in being a shit-starter. I’ve got nothing against NGT, nor am I affiliated with any other venue in Baton Rouge.

Here’s the thing about the pole in front of your business:

It isn’t yours.

You have exactly as much a right to selectively restrict postings on that pole as I do – which is to say, you literally have no right at all.

Sec. 12:300. Posters and other advertising prohibited.

It shall be unlawful for any person to paste, post, nail, tack, or attach in any other manner any kind of dodger, sign, card, picture, placard or advertisement of any kind, business or political, or cardboard, tin or any other material to any pole, post or object on the streets, alleys or sidewalks of the city-parish; and it shall further be unlawful to suspend or erect any banner, placard or advertisement of any kind over and across any public street, alley or other public way within the city-parish.

(Baton Rouge City Code 1951, Title 12, § 300; East Baton Rouge Parish Code 1962, Title 12, § 300)

Sec. 12:301. Leasing or using poles, etc., prohibited.

The owners or lessors of any sign, post, lighting stand, guy post, guy wire, shade tree or any other post, pole or object are prohibited from using same for the above named purposes and are also prohibited from granting, letting or leasing the poles, posts, lighting standards, guy wires, guy posts, shade trees or any other posts, poles or objects to any other parties for said purposes or for the purpose of being used in connection with the suspension of any banner, placard or advertisement of any kind over and across the public streets.

(Baton Rouge City Code 1951, Title 12, § 301)

In case you find this legalese unclear, here’s the relevant bit of information: it is against the law for anyone to post fliers on poles.

Now, I think these city-parish ordinances are kind of stupid and I’m glad they aren’t strictly enforced. I like seeing fliers posted. They’re informative and sometimes artistic.

And like you, I support local music.

And like you, I realize that the pole in front of your business is located on what is probably the street with the greatest amount of pedestrian traffic in the city.

And like you, I know that fliers are an effective means of publicity, especially to the pedestrian population, and also that they cost money to print.

I have friends in several well-known bands in the Baton Rouge ‘scene.’ I have seen them pay out-of-pocket for posters and fliers.

In selectively prohibiting the posting of fliers on the pole in front of your business, you would be using imaginary ‘leverage’ to put anyone not playing at your venue at a disadvantage – with adverse economic ramifications.

In other words, you’re taking money out of bands’ pockets, both by trashing their posters and giving them less space for publicity on a high-traffic pedestrian path, for your own benefit.

That’s a shitty thing to do.
And you have no right to do it.

So don’t be a dick. If you want a high-visibility event calendar, post that shit on your front door, which is actually yours. But let that pole exist as a harbinger of artistic diversity in this rich local music scene – instead of a manifestation of your own money-grubbing self-interest.

I wasn’t kidding about taking down your fliers, either.

--Ann

maybe if i printed it in block letters across my breasts

last night i was telling brett about a conversation i'd had recently with my friend haley. she and i had gone to grammar school together and have been running into each other fairly frequently, but never with enough time to have a decent chat. monday she took the table next to mine at highland and we ended up talking for over an hour, mostly about religion. she is a devout catholic who actually reads catholic philosophy - definitely not light reading, but she tells me she can't get enough of it. she wants to know the why of everything. i respect that. and i get where she's coming from.

so then we're talking about books and she tells me to read this woman edith stein, a german philosopher from the early 20th century. she tells me that edith was born jewish, turned atheist, was inspired by the writings of st. teresa of avila, and ended up a carmelite nun. haley tells me it's not light reading but she thinks it's brilliant and inspiring, how edith stein manages to articulate all these things haley believes and wonders about, but could never put into words; and she loves that edith is an important catholic philosopher and is also a woman. she says she thinks i'll love the book. it's something she always wants to recommend to people, but she's afraid they'd be put off by the density of it. she says she knows i could handle it, no problem.

then haley exclaims, "and she's anti-feminist!"

and i'm sure my face fell. but i was trying not to show it, and trying to stay open. we kept talking and finally i asked her to tell me more about the 'anti-feminist' stuff. she told me her point of view (for women to become 'equal' to men means they are stripping themselves of what is special about womanhood) and i told her mine. she was receptive, and by the end of the conversation she said she thought we probably feel the same way about women, but use different words. that may or may not be true, but if i can describe feminism in a way that doesn't sound divisive, i guess that's a good thing.

so i'm telling brett about our conversation, and how haley described this book she'd recommended as being "anti-feminist," and how i told her that i was a feminist.

brett interrupts me.

"oh, you're not a feminist," he says.

...

i'm not entirely sure what happened next. i think it went like this:

BRETT: oh, you're not a feminist.

ann's jaw hangs slack for a moment.

ANN: excuse you?

BRETT: it's just that i'm surprised you would identify yourself with that word.

another pause.

ANN: you're an idiot.

...

needless to say, he got very defensive and told me repeatedly that i was being a jerk. i told him:

a) it's offensive, when someone is telling you how they've identified themselves, to respond with, "oh, you're not that."

b) it's particularly offensive to me that he would tell me i am not a feminist.

c) i couldn't think of a perfect counter-example, but the best i could come up with on the spot was: "what if you mentioned in passing that you'd referred to yourself as a musician, and i was like, scoffing, 'oh, you're not a musician.'"

d) he denied that he was scoffing.

e) he was too scoffing!

f) and how could he even say that; doesn't he know me at all; how can you date a guy for seven months and he somehow doesn't know what you believe, what you respect about yourself, what you consider important. how can you be friends with someone for well over a year, and have him tell you to your face that he doesn't think you're a feminist. how is it possible that he doesn't know?

g) what's the definition of "feminism"?

he wouldn't define it. he wouldn't even try. he said he wasn't going to sit there and give me some dictionary definition. at this point i was trying to be calm. i told him it didn't have to sound like a dictionary; i wanted to know what he thought a feminist was, if he thought i wasn't one. i wasn't trying to bait him. i was trying to have a conversation.

and he's sitting there telling me, "well, i didn't know what you thought about it, it's never come up before."

when in fact i've tried to talk to him on several occasions about quote-unquote women's issues, with varying success. he's made it clear before that the topic does not interest him. which doesn't stop me from bringing it up. and since we've started dating, he's gotten more receptive - or better at feigning interest - or better at controlling his knee-jerk reaction / revulsion to some of the stuff i say.

e.g.: "oh, i'm bleeding again."

"god. could you not."

"what?"

"could you please not refer to it as bleeding?"

".........but that's what it is, brett."

"yeah, i know. but it sounds gross. like i immediately get this gross picture in my head. i'm sorry, but it's not attractive."

"well, guess what. i bleed. blood comes out of my vagina. i have to deal with it. i can call it whatever i want to. the fact that you think it's gross and unattractive and you'd rather not think of chicks bleeding is exactly my point when i'm 'ranting' about the 'feminine products' industry marketing scented bullshit products and 'silent' pad wrappers to make women feel gross and and embarrassed about the fact that they menstruate."

but i guess i never sounded righteously indignant enough for him to identify me as a feminist?

and my whole thing about feminism is that it's not about being the self-righteous angry bitch who's got to wave it in everyone's face all the time. not all the time. but sometimes it's necessary. when my smart guy friends say ignorant sexist things, i get angry. when some fuckhead in a bar is hassling me, i act like a bitch. get the fuck out of my way. i am a feminist and my point is that i don't have to put up with that kind of shit. and i won't.

i knew where he was coming from, that he thinks the word 'feminism' has negative connotations, and he doesn't associate himself with it, and doesn't associate me with it either. i told him that i'd written a letter to the editor of the reveille several years ago on this very topic.

i told him the backstory: there was some debate in 2003 about whether or not women should be allowed to join the all-male Augusta National golf club. i think women were allowed to play, but couldn't actually become a member. this debate got a lot of media coverage, and the reveille did a he-says-she-says feature with two columnists expressing their point of view. the "she" in this case was a student named jessica w____. she opened her column with a statement to this effect: "i'm not a feminist or anything, but...." and of course she went on to say she'd always believed women could do anything men could do, etc etc.

i told my boyfriend at the time - i remember this so vividly - we were walking past wendy's on state street and i was telling him about the article and how i couldn't believe that this girl would disclaim feminism, how it made me so mad when people 'apologized' for it, like it's something to be ashamed of. and that i think virtually all of my friends, male and female, are in fact feminist. they believe what feminism believes and they live accordingly.

and jesse said, to my great shock, that he didn't consider himself a feminist. that the word had too many negative connotations. so i argued with him about it, about narrow views of feminism controlled by media portrayals of extremists and perpetuated by ignorance; about the history of the word, the legacy of the women's movement, the power of language, and the practice of 'reclaiming' language among marginalized groups.

as it turns out, jessica w____ was sports editor of the reveille when she wrote her column. so i responded with this letter to the editor, which was published in spring 2003:

To Jessica W____, Sports Editor of the Reveille:

What feminism isn't: The belief that fetuses are parasites; the belief that hairy legs and armpits are the ultimate female fashion statement; the belief that all women should be militant lesbians with mullets; the belief that all women should be belligerently anti-men.

What feminism is: The belief in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes.

I didn't make that last part up. I got that from the American Heritage Dictionary. This definition matches what you claim are your beliefs: that "there are certain rights ... women should have," that "things should be equal and fair, and ... that is how it was meant to be." I hate to break it to you, but it appears that you are, in fact, a feminist.

"No," you say, "I was not a feminist at 5 years old, and I don't think I am one now." I wonder what has turned you off to the idea -- or at least the label -- of "feminist." I suspect that you fear the negative connotations that some people -- ignorant people, people who should know better -- attribute to the word and to the movement. I encourage you to rise above this fear and ignorance. Don't allow a small group of extremists to discredit the entire history of the women's movement.

You and I both know that this is about equality, plain and simple. It's a noble fight, and it's one that you should be proud to take part in. Don't let other people dissuade you from this fight with their perverted definitions of what it is to be a feminist. Find your own definition. And don't apologize for it. Maybe Jessica W____'s definition of "feminist" is that a girl can perform the role of sports editor of her college newspaper just as well as a boy. I, for one, am all for it.

Ann G______
Sophomore -- English

this is not exactly how i would write it now, but the sentiment is more or less the same: if you think feminism has been turned into a dirty word, reclaim it. becca has added "regardless of gender" to my dictionary definition, which i think is a nice touch as an inclusive clarification. this addition came about when dad, michael, and i went to visit her at cafe rani for lunch a few months ago; she ended up joining us for a three-hour conversation about feminism (among other things). my dad, struggling to keep a straight face, asked becca and me if we still believed women were 'oppressed' by men.

his face was pretty straight when becca told him how her neighbor, an older man, sat by the window of their shared balcony, curtains drawn, watching her, beating off. and when i told him about my thesis advisor, who trashed me to my defense committee, so that i cried in front of everyone, and then when we were getting up to leave, announced to the room that i looked very cute, all dressed up for the occasion. i told him how i have to keep my eyes down when i go see shows by myself, because often if i make accidental eye contact with a random guy, he considers it a personal invitation to come 'chat' with me - apparently it does not occur to these guys that a woman could go to a bar alone by choice - and no amount of polite disinterested conversation or refusal to make eye contact will get rid of them. (on one occasion i finally resorted to flipping the guy off and yelling "fuck you" over the music.) i told him how i've been groped by several drunk male acquaintances, and i didn't know what to do, because they're my friends and i don't want to be a 'bitch,' but i want them to get their mouths off my neck and their hands off my ass. and just saying "please stop" and moving away doesn't work.

the sad thing is that i have tried to live as a witness to feminism, kind of like how some christians try to live as a witness to their faith without acting self-righteous and trumpeting it to everyone. i have tried to be an example. this is what a feminist looks like: i'm straight, agnostic, ambivalent about abortion, i shave my legs most of the time, my hair is almost shoulder-length, c-cup, ballerina, have a cat, have a boyfriend, i often prefer the company of guys, i'm sensitive and cry easily, i'm argumentative, i think i'm smarter than most people, i'm on birth control, i want an IUD, i don't know if i want kids, i love my matriarchal family, i love my brother, i have a tendency to invite controlling men into my life, i'm grossed out easily, i use tampons, i like my breasts, i don't like my ass, i usually think i could stand to lose a couple pounds, i will flirt to get my way, i like to read, i tire quickly of most 'women writers,' i like trashy women's magazines, i don't subscribe to bust or bitch, i like rock & roll and musical theatre, someone close to me has been sexually abused, i intentionally programmed my speed dial so that it's only family members and girlfriends, and when my friends say something sexist, intentionally or inadvertently, i call them out on it.

the sad thing is that this apparently isn't enough to get my point across. i can't be "cool" and also be a feminist. apparently people have it in their heads that feminism looks like a certain thing, and whatever that is, it's never friendly, laid-back, reasonable, or cute. apparently for my male friends to consider me a feminist, i have to act angry all the time, drone on and on about how much i hate men, get a butch haircut, a girlfriend, and an abortion.

i tried to explain all this to brett as calmly as i could. he told me to quit lecturing him. he told me i was being a jerk. he said he was pissed off at me. he said he wanted to leave. he slammed the door on his way out.

bet he thinks i'm a feminist now.

two cents

and i feel like i must be going through a belligerent phase
maybe i'll swing back to the middle where i can be tactful and also assertive
but it's hard for me to stifle my inner editor and it's hard for me not to say exactly what i think
exactly
lied to at every turn
maybe i'm tired of playing defense.

in other news,
walking to work this morning, i contemplated what kind of clothes i would wear when i taught elementary school students in spain. this question has been posed on the NALCA boards and the experienced auxiliares say the dress is very casual, i.e., tank tops, flip flops, jeans. i don't know about all that, but you know me, i'm sure i'll be in jeans and converse no matter what, since that has been my personal dress code at both of my 'real-world' jobs.

so then i was thinking about my plaid button-down shirts, and if the weather is as temperate in granada as it seems, i'd probably wear those a lot. and what if the kids thought i dressed like a cowgirl or something?

and i remembered: writing a report on korea, sixth grade, a project with claudia t___, who was in fact half-korean. sometimes her mom packed korean grapes with claudia's lunch. the grapes had pits and thick dark inedible skin which was easily split; underneath, the pulp of it tasted like wine. i did my research on korea using the set of encyclopedias my mother bought in 1992. the article explained that in modern-day korea, the people dressed in "western" clothes. i had no sense of a global culture divided into east and west and assumed that korean people dressed like cowboys. this assumption was reinforced by the accompanying picture of modern korean people in a street scene, which must have been taken circa 1975, as the subjects of the photograph were all wearing western-style shirts, fringed vests, flared jeans.